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You are a Map and You are Here.

Amanda Stern

6 Sep 2021
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Welcome to How to Live, my newsletter for Facebook's platform, Bulletin.

I am honored to be included among a roster of such incredible writers, thinkers, and activists as the Nobel Peace Prize–winner Malala Yousafzai.

Thank you, kind readers, for joining me.

Once you subscribe, you'll receive this newsletter in your inbox every Wednesday morning.

Don't want to read? No worries! Listen to this piece here.

In this space, I'll be sharing my thoughts, ideas, and experiences about mental health and psychology, while also introducing you to new therapeutic modalities, historical figures from the psychological archives, and undertaking some experiments all in the name of my lifelong quest to free myself from anxiety and trauma—the mediums inside which I've existed from the time I began speaking to this moment.

While I am no stranger to email overwhelm, what I offer will (hopefully) help you think about yourself, your loved ones, and your life in different ways.

Often when our pain becomes unbearable, the goal to feel better demands action. The first 25 years of my life were spent living with an undiagnosed panic disorder. (If you want to read more about all this, you're in luck! I wrote a memoir called Little Panic: Dispatches From an Anxious Life.)

By the time I was diagnosed, I was so far gone that I hadn't left my apartment in three weeks. Since then, I have been driven by an almost obsessive need to face every experience that feels too scary for me: Love, intimate relationships, publishing books, performing live onstage, public speaking, and now, writing this newsletter. I have read, researched, undergone decades of therapy, talked, thought, watched, and learned so much about how to be free from acute emotional pain, and now I want to pass along everything I've learned and continue to learn, to you.

As you can read in my inaugural post, I'll be writing about all issues related to psychology and mental health. I'll be exploring the difference between feeling and emotion; mining mathematics in a quest to answer the philosophical question, "Who am I?" I'll introduce you to Christiana Morgan, a nearly erased historical figure who helped pioneer personality testing, and was an early muse to Jung and the patient who inspired his four-year Vision Seminar. I will also acquaint you with other crucial historical figures from the psychological archives. We'll dive into attachment theory, somatic experiencing therapy, trauma, the inadvertent ways well-meaning parents harm their children and reveal how IQ testing can alter the self-esteem of the children who take them.

While there are things I am devoted to exploring and expressing, I want to hear your interests as well. When it comes to your mental health, and to the mental health of the world, what issues preoccupy you? What would you like to read more about—and see less of?

Do you wonder about the trauma of childhood? Are you curious whether celebrities have an obligation to the public regardless of their psychological state? Have you wanted to know more about who invented the Rorschach inkblots and why? Tell me. What do you think about in the cracks of your everyday life? What gnaws at you? I want to know.

Please leave me comments with your thoughts. And if you're on Instagram, I'm @alittlestern.

Until then I remain,

Amanda

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  • Amanda Hixson
    Amanda,
    I think this is wonderful and I welcome this new journey of yours into my life. I hope this can maybe help me some with my own isssues if not at least I can learn more on such things you have to share. I've always been a fan and love your memo…
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      Amanda Stern
      Amanda! Thank you so much. I’m so happy you’re here and I can’t wait to learn more about you and the things you’d like to read about and learn. I’m here for all of it!! XxA
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  • Patty Buege
    Hello, great information, I am working on this, so great timing. I like the subject matter you talk about. I am looking forward to reading more to help me relearn how to live my life. Dealing with issues I suppressed for many many years. Waiting fo…
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  • Maury Feinsilber
    I'm so glad for you and especially the collective "we" that your words, thoughts, and hard-won knowledge is now being shared with the world on the platform, Amanda!
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      Amanda Stern
      Thanks, Maury! So happy you’re here with me!
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  • Silvana Ordoñez
    I am very excited to go on this journey with you. I've been learning so much through personal therapy, couple's therapy, and I still feel like there's so much I don't know...or know how to deal with. I am eager to learn more about myself and others thr…
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      Amanda Stern
      thank you! I can’t wait for your feedback on future pieces!
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  • Scott Lucas
    Hey Amanda, Maria Popova gave me a nod in your direction. I'm looking forward to future posts with your take on Somatic Therapy and EMDR, and profiles on deserving, but little known pioneers in psychology. Good for you with this launch. Good for us.
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      Amanda Stern
      Oh wow! Maria Popova is one of my BFFs AND my fairy godmother. So happy to have you here. Those two subjects are coming down the pipeline soon. Keep an eye out for at least one of them in October. Thanks for being here, and if you like what you read, please feel free to share it. Thanks!
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  • Leeann Lane
    Hi Amanda...wow how interesting and informative your column's are...So I'm LeeAnn and mental illness runs in my family for many generations..My mother was agoraphobic with major depression and I also have an agoraphobic sister who. Also suffers from de…
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      Amanda Stern
      Hi Ms. Lane! Welcome aboard the How to Live ship! I'm sorry to hear that you're suffering. First, please know that I'm not a psychologist, and I do not have a medical degree, or license of any kind. I'm simply a person who has suffered from extreme anx…
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